When it comes to “settling” and whether or not we should ever do it, the answer should always be “no”.
At least, that’s the case according to one mom. And from where I’m sitting, it looks like she knows a thing or two of what she’s talking about.
“Do. Not. Settle.”
That’s the point a Christian Pennsylvania mom, Kari Boyer, wants to drive home to young women praying for a husband.
It all started with a single moment on the bathroom floor that all but smacked Boyer with the reality of what matters most in a life partner.
So, what makes the “perfect” husband?
Is it their looks? Is it intelligence? Is it the way he makes her feel?
Boyer’s heartfelt post draws from her own experience and urges young women to patiently wait for divine timing.
Only then will they know what God has prepared for them and prepared them for.
Boyer shares what she finds most important
She carefully points out that a husband should place God first and foremost, and should hold his wife and children as his remaining priority.
“Young ladies, when the season of life comes and you’re starting to pray for a spouse to spend your life with… pray for the kind of man that will lay next to your future 13-year-old, on the bathroom floor, praying over her because she can’t keep a drop of water down.”
“Pray for a man that will carry her down the stairs, to the car, and spend all night in the hospital by her side. Pray for a spouse that will consistently put you and your children first, above himself — but NOT above the Lord.”
A single picture summed this up.
Her confident words were accompanied by a picture Boyer shared, one she snapped in her house after coming upon a moving scene.
The picture is of her husband, laying down on the floor beside their sick 13-year-old daughter, comforting her in a time of extreme pain and need.
This moment struck Boyer so hard that she was overwhelmingly compelled to offer her best advice to future young women looking to enter marriage.
She continued in her post:
“Pray for a spouse that will wake up at 6:30am on Sunday and get his family around and lead them to the House of God. Because, if he can wake up at 4:30am on Saturday to hunt… he can wake up at 6:30 on Sunday to lead his family to salvation.”
Boyer’s steadfast words paint the picture of a dutiful spouse, one that she tells women can be theirs too if they respectfully wait for the perfect time.
“Just wait. And while you wait, pray that the Lord would not only prepare your future spouse, but that He would prepare you to be the kind of wife He is leading you to be. Wait for the one God has for you. Don’t give pieces of yourself away to every man that crosses your path and shows you a little affection.”
Her hard-earned wisdom went viral. Snaring over 122k likes and over 422k shares, it was clear that the image of her husband comforting his daughter struck home with many.
And many also felt moved to comment with their own lived experiences to help cement Kari’s point.
See Kari’s incredibly sage post in full below!
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